I'm reckoning that as you've found your way to this section of the YLC site the likelihood is that you and your family have been hurt by the loss of a loved one to suicide. If this is so then please accept my sympathies.
As a mom who lost my precious son Nicholas to suicide a few years ago I can truly say I understand the pain you are going through.
It was only through the care and support of others that I together with my family was able to carry on. We realized that together we were our reasons to live and as much as our hearts break that Nick is no longer with us we are determined as a family to live our lives in his honour.
As difficult as these days may be for you and your family I encourage you not to give in to the feelings of utter despair. The YLC team works with many families who have lost their loved ones to suicide. Many of the people in the YLC team have themselves lost a loved one to suicide or have had suicide touch their lives in deep and meaningful ways.
Please reach out for the help and support that is available through YLC and partnering agencies. The burden of coping with suicide can be overwhelming. It is in these times that we need help. And that's ok.
We all need support and encouragement to carry on.
We are here for you. Don't give up!"
Penny Knapp, mom of Nicholas.
If you feel you are in immediate danger of hurting yourself or anyone else please call your emergency services number and don’t delay.
Here are some of the things you can do right now:
- Watch this video on YouTube especially produced for suicide loss survivors by Survivors of Suicide Loss led by Penny Knapp, mom of Nicholas. The introduction features YLC Founder, Rory Butler with a special message for you.
- Contact Penny at Survivors of Suicide Loss
- Read this article 'Coping With Suicidal Thoughts' with helpful tips on how to cope right now if you are feeling vulnerable.
- 'After a suicide - a Practical and Personal Guide for Survivors' produced by the Canadian Association for Suicide Prevention.
- 'Hope & Healing After Suicide' produced by CAMH
- 'Handbook for Survivors of Suicide' produced by the American Association for Suicidology.
- Brochure 'Suicide Grief' produced by the Canadian Association for Suicide Prevention.
- Reach out to us via the YLC Online Lifeline.
- Call a crisis line – here’s a directory
- Make a Promise To Live and ask all your family and friends to also make this promise.
- Visit our Knowledge Bank and find out more about particular problems we can all face in our day to day life.
- Read some personal stories to encourage you to keep going.
- Share your story to encourage others to keep going.
- Read our Newsblog for more life affirming news and views.
- Consider ways of getting involved in our work to help others stay alive – many of us find that helping others, helps and encourages us as individuals.
- Contact Penny via YLC if you would like to join an online support group for survivors that is by invitation only.
- Keep going and don't give up!